In the year 2010, during the pregnancy of my second child, I
was shocked into reality when my midwife told me to not gain one single pound
because I was at risk of so many problems due to my weight. I was embarrassed and did something about
it. Shortly after my son was born, I
kicked my ass into gear and began a journey that I promised myself I would not
repeat. I worked so hard and was so diligent
and lost 80 pounds. I was so happy in my
life and I swore to the devil that I would not see that ever-dreaded 300 pound
mark on my scale again. Everything was
going splendidly until the urge to become a mother crept back into my brain and
I talked Adam into getting us pregnant again.
I didn’t gain the weight all back initially. The third pregnancy came and went without a
hitch, but 30 pounds followed the baby home.
I did okay for a while keeping my weight gain at bay. However, after quitting my job of 8 years,
moving to a new city, and suddenly dealing with my husband going to graduate
school full-time while working a full-time job and me going to school full-time
while working part-time, all that weight didn’t just creep back, but rather
snuck up behind me with a sock full of quarters to knock me upside the head
before jumping back onto my body. I was
maxed out in every aspect of the word. I
didn’t have a moment of time to think and my stress levels were through the
roof.
We have lived in Boise now for a year and the horrendous
school year is over and my husband and I have had some time to reflect on where
we went wrong. Not once during this
whole year have either one of us taken time for ourselves. We were so focused on everything else, that
we forgot to focus time on our own psyches.
This was our fatal flaw. Now here
I sit, 4 years later and 65 pounds gained and hating every inch of myself. I want to feel better again. I want to wake up and not dread walking past
the mirrors. I want to be that Patty that
isn’t scared anymore.
It takes courage to admit when you’ve made a mistake, and it
takes even more courage to get up and try again once you’ve fallen flat. I don’t protest to know everything, in fact,
I know very little, but I do know how to try. The other day I was talking with my sister Chris. It was then that I realized that it's OK to admit when something needs to be changed. A few years ago, I bought her a book about courage when I was in a better place. I wanted to show her that she had power to be what she wanted to be inside all along. She then returned the favor by buying me the same book. I choke up every time I read it because I do know that my inner power is there. So I dedicate this blog to my sissy. Her strength helped me see that I am capable of doing whatever I set my mind to; and for me it's working on believing that I am a beautiful and worthwhile person. Join me
if you wish and if you’d like to try again with me, I welcome that as
well.
You are amazing, Patty. I have no doubt you will be successful!
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